By Lindsay Curtis
Laura and Ian had been together for a year when he began making regular requests for her to watch porn with him to “spice things up” in their bedroom. Up until then, Laura had only read erotica on her own to get herself in the mood. She was reluctant to watch porn in the past because she’d read that women who worked in the porn industry were often mistreated and underpaid. Wanting to keep her sex life healthy, she agreed to watch porn with Ian after one of their date nights.
“I wanted to like it, this porn he was so enthusiastic to share with me to get us in the mood,” Laura shared as she told me about her experience watching pornography with her boyfriend Ian. “But as it progressed, I couldn’t get over the blatant objectification of women. I could tell the women in the video weren’t actually enjoying themselves. And rather than turning me on, I was repulsed and disappointed.”
Laura is far from alone from her repulsion of pornography. Although more women than ever watch pornography (a2018 Year in Review by Pornhub reported that the proportion of female visitors rose to 29% — the highest it has ever been), it’s only started to increase in the last couple of years. Pornography has been traditionally thought of as something that mainly men watch, and the content has traditionally been tailored towards content and scenes that interest their predominantly male audience.
Furthermore, some of the more particularly aggressive and violent content can also be off putting for some, especially if you are searching and unexpectedly come across something you are not prepared to see or feels outright violating, putting you completely out of the mood.Studies have shown that some women have developedstrategies for how to search for pornographic content to increase their chances of having a positive, pleasurable experience because coming across undesirable content can be a common experience.
Fortunately, on the industry side, there have been more studios, producers, and actors who are making a wider range of content centered around womxn’s pleasure and treats everyone who works on productions fairly. Feminist and female-friendly pornography producers — on the whole — are out to change the industry and the way it treats women. These producers espouse ethical standards that performers are paid a fair wage with fair labor practices. Actors are given a choice about what kind of sex they have, and with whom, too. Generally speaking, this content has a more “authentic” feel to it, as viewers can be assured the actors they’re watching are treated fairly and only engage in activities they’ve consented to.
In response to the growing number of female viewers, the porn industry is evolving.
But where can you find this female-friendly porn? Look for websites that indicate they produce ethical, feminist porn — most of these producers pride themselves on being a safe, positive place for women in the industry and state it clearly on their website. Or, check out one of our suggestions from the list below.
PinkLabelTV
PinkLabel.tv hosts sexy and ethical feminist porn films and erotic TV series. New episodes are released every week, so there’s always fresh content to keep your toes curling. PinkLabel offers a variety of genres — everything from romantic scenes to femnist dyke porn to science fiction thrillers. The best part? The site celebrates diversity and inclusion, and their performers include people of color and folks who are queer, trans, disabled, and older adults. PinkLabel also serves as a resource for those who are looking to enter the porn business ethically.
Bright Desire
Bright Desire describes their films as a “celebration of sex,” and it doesn’t disappoint. As a site that prides itself on providing feminist, ethical porn, their videos show the true connections, intimacy, laughter and pleasure of their actors, some of whom are real-life couples. And if you’re looking for something more than just porn videos, the site offers erotic short films and documentaries exploring sexuality, eroticism and diversity. Curious about who you’re watching on screen? You can watch performer interviews and behind-the-scenes footage, too!
Sounds of Pleasure
The fake moans we hear in mainstream porn are far from believable. Listen to enough of them and you start to wonder what people actually sound like when they’re experiencing sexual pleasure. If you’re feeling horny but can’t have video on display (say at work or on the subway!), Sounds of Pleasure provides free audio recordings of people masturbating, couples having sex, and others engaging in dirty talk intended for the listener (you!).
AbbyWinters
If you’re looking for authenticity, there’s something for every woman and preference on AbbyWinters. Whether you’re interested in a niche fetish or just some good old fashioned sex scenes, you’re likely to find it here. The site prides itself on working with amateur models who only have sex with their boyfriend/girlfriend (or themselves!) with no crew around and no script, offering viewers authenticity for their viewing pleasure.
Crash Pad Series
If you are looking for ethical queer porn made by and for queer folks, the Crash Pad Series is a great place to go. In addition to becoming a member and perusing their content, you can also watch their behind the scenes post-interviews. If you’re interested in getting to know what some of the actors are thinking and feeling while in a scene, it can be fascinating and enlightening to watch.
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