As a sex writer who spends a good portion of my time writing guides and advice pieces for better sex, I’m often conflicted because there’s never just one good way to do anything.
There are ways. Plural.
Blow jobs are no different; they can be quick and dirty, a surprise, warm-up, or foreplay. But, if you want to take it up a notch and give the crème de la crème of blow jobs—no pun intended—I recommend the following tips:
How to Give a Better Blow Job
If I could give you a step-by-step recipe to the perfect blowjob, I would, but unfortunately, there’s no such thing. Since preferences and sensitivities vary from person to person, and sometimes even from one day to the next, there’s no ‘go-to-procedure’ for all.
Fortunately, if you’re wondering how to give a good blow job, there are a few dos and don’t that separate the bad from the good, and the good from the outstanding.
Farting is one of those things we all do, but society seems to tell us we “shouldn't” fart. If we happen to pass gas in front of other people, it can often induce embarrassment and frantic looking around, hoping nobody suspects it was us. But it's a completely natural and common occurrence to fart.
It's the same thing with vaginal farts, otherwise known as “queefing,” but these usually happen in front of a much smaller crowd. When a person queefs during sex, it can leave them mortified and negatively impact their pleasure — even if their partner(s) doesn't seem to care.
I’d never heard of ASMR before 2018, but I have several friends who swear they experience it and that watching certain videos helps them deal with their intense insomnia. One such friend went out of town with me, and late at night in our hotel room, she turned on a video of a woman whispering and watched it until she drifted off to sleep. This seemed not all that strange to me, almost like listening to a guided meditation.
But ASMR is much more than a desire to listen to someone whispering.
“It felt akin to a jackhammer ramming inside of me,” said Claire, recalling the first time she got intimate with her boyfriend Seamus. After a few dates, the two were ready to take their connection to the next level. “After some foreplay, I was wet and ready. But as soon as my pants were off, he started banging his fingers inside of me with absolutely no finesse and completely killed the mood.” Fortunately for Claire, Seamus was receptive to her feedback, and their night (and sex life) recovered.
If you’ve ever been a Claire or a Seamus in a similar scenario, read on. These popular fingering techniques can be mastered to elevate your prowess in the bedroom and help bring on intense orgasms.