Calling all my responsive sex drive girlies! If you've ever tried masturbating and thought "I am just not that turned on" or experienced the lackluster joys of penetration without stimulation, this one is for you.
In the spirit of better orgasms and more meaningful masturbation, I need 10 minutes of your time…and not for reading this blog (I promise to only take 3 or 4 for that). No, those 10 minutes are going to be spent getting up close and clitoral for science.
In other words, let's talk about stimulating your clit and why it's a good idea.
Your Sex Ed Class Left This Part Out
Forget what they told you about part A being inserted into part B. Your sex ed class likely didn't get into the part that matters: part C.
Your clitoris.
This magic little pleasure button is the only body part we have designed purely for pleasure (according to some), and it plays a key role in your arousal as a person with a vulva. And all you have to do is touch it in a way that feels good.
When you give your clit some love, your body literally gets the memo. Studies show that stimulation increases blood flow to your clitoris and surrounding areas, making everything more swollen, sensitive, and ready for action. Think of it as your body's way of rolling out the red wet carpet for pleasure.
Science Says Push the Button (Down There)
If you're not convinced (or still feeling weird about touching your own clitoris), I totally get it. With so much of women's sexual health relying on anecdote and whispers over mimosas, it's really normal for direct information about your body and your sexual health to feel a little alarming.
But science nerds have actually measured what happens when you stimulate the clitoris (yes, really), and the results are chef's kiss. I'm talking about legitimate researchers, too, who literally inserted tiny probes into rabbit and human clitorises to measure blood flow changes during arousal. This study showed that pelvic nerve stimulation caused an increase in vaginal blood flow, vaginal wall pressure, vaginal length, clitoral intracavernosal pressure and clitoral blood flow - basically turning your entire pelvic region into a hydraulic pleasure system.
Slow Down and Touch the Rose's Noses
If there's one thing Sexperiments have shown us, it's that taking your time is good. Elongated sessions often lead to longer, higher-rated orgasms — and who doesn't want that?
So I'm giving you homework — the kind you'll actually want to do.
Over the next few weeks, I want you to dedicate 10 minutes of your time before masturbation to clitoral stimulation. Don't reach for your Lioness until you've done it, either. Unsure of what to do? Here are a few ideas:
- Lube up the pads of your finger tips and start slow
- Move your fingers against your clitoris in whatever way feels good: small circles, side to side, etc.
- Let your body relax and just pay attention to what feels good.
Notice how your body responds. Are you getting wetter? More sensitive? Are you actually wanting more stimulation instead of just going through the motions? This isn't about racing to orgasm in 10 minutes (though if that happens, congrats!). It's about giving your body the time it needs to fully wake up and join the party.
Your Body is Clitorally Amazing
Your body is incredible. Your clitoris is incredible. And you deserve pleasure that feels as good as the science says it can. Whether you're using this warm-up before solo sessions or partnered play, those 10 minutes aren't "extra" time—they're an investment in better, more satisfying experiences.
So next time you're feeling rushed or just "not that into it," remember: your body has an entire organ just waiting for you to press the button and turn it on. Give it the time it deserves, and let your Lioness Smart Vibe help you discover exactly what those 10 minutes of attention can unlock.
