"Baby lock the door and turn the lights down low"….for yourself! Sure, partnered sex and romance are great, but when was the last time you considered doing it for yourself?
Creating an ambiance for your solo sex can elevate your experience, increase arousal, and maybe even lead to better orgasms. Here’s how to do it:
Lights, candles…action! Create a solo sex sanctuary
Chances are you masturbate in a lot of the same places; your bedroom, your shower, your living room when no one else is home (yeah, you’re not the only one who does that!). And the more you frequent these regular spots, the more they can fade into the background and become less of a sensual environment and more of just a routine.
In the same vein, maybe you avoid some of these places because you can only see them for what they are: a place where your laundry needs to get picked up, a place where people use the toilet and brush their teeth, or the room where everyone in the house leaves all their crap out in a perpetual mess (we see you, moms).
Regardless of how you’re currently feeling about these spaces, transforming them from lived-in environments to solo sex sanctuaries can go a long way for setting the mood. Each of the following can heighten your masturbation experience:
- Lighting: Dim your lights, use soft, warm bulbs, or get spicy with some red or orange lighting from color changing bulbs. Candles are another effective choice, if you’re into them.
- Aroma: Diffusing oils like lavender or sandalwood can help create a sensual, soothing atmosphere (as can scented candles). Just go with a scent that works for you.
- Declutter/Clean Up: If you masturbate with your eyes closed, this may be less effective but for those eyes-wide-open orgasms, consider clearing your space so you’re not visually disrupted before or during masturbation.
Tune into something that turns you on
Music is often considered a go-to mood-setter — and with good reason! What other element helps set the mood for movies, tv, and date nights better?
When it comes to setting the mood for masturbating, consider curating a Pleasure Playlist. Whether you’re solo sex vibe is sultry, playful, or reflective, pick songs that make you feel good and feel yourself.
If music is too distracting, sound can still be a mood setter for you! Consider using nature sounds, instrumental tracks, or guided sexual visualizations to create an atmosphere that works for you.
Relax before you climax
Being able to dim the lights, light a candle, and throw on a playlist before jumping right into masturbation can feel difficult if you’re particularly busy or stressed. So if you’ve ever gone to touch yourself and found it impossible to get fully into it or reach the big O, this tip is going to really take you far.
Before you masturbate, spend some time doing something relaxing and restorative. If you like to read, read. If you like to meditate, do that. If you want to just sit and eat a snack while you listen to the soothing sound of silence in a warm bath, soak for as long as you need! (A nice long bath is actually Lioness co-founder Anna’s top advice for relaxing before you masturbate!)
Reducing stress before spending time masturbating is never a bad idea and can only work in your favor.
Wine & dine yourself before you touch yourself
No one ever said romance, foreplay, and creating a sensual atmosphere have to be for partnered sex. By taking the time to set the mood for yourself, you’re creating an environment with the potential to lead to more sexual satisfaction, better orgasms, and a deeper connection to your sexual self.
And if you’ve got a Lioness Smart Vibrator already, you can see the fruits of your labors when you join December 2024’s Sexperiment. All month long, we’ll be setting the mood for ourselves to ultimately find out how it improves our pleasure.
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