By Leo Aquino
So you want to try double penetration, but your Google searches are bringing up porn fantasies and positions that can only be achieved by world class gymnasts in outer space rather than actual advice. We can relate.
Double Penetration (DP) is the act of penetrating two openings in someone’s body, or inserting two body parts or toys into one opening at the same time.
The most widely-known form of DP (probably the kind that popped up on your PornHub search results) is penetrating the anus and vagina at the same time, but there are many different kinds of DP, and you don’t really need a third (or second) person in the room to practice double penetration (although sometimes, it’s hotter that way.)
Here a few possible DP combinations:
- Using a vibrator vaginally and an anal plug at the same time.
- Using an anal plug while having penis-in-vagina sex in missionary position
- Having your partner insert a vibrator into your vagina or anus while they’re already inside of you (a.k.a., double vaginal penetration)
- Having your partner insert a bullet vibrator into your anus while there’s already a butt plug inside of you (a.k.a., double anal penetration)
Why do people do it?
If you’re the penetrating partner, it may stroke your dominant side to see your partner in complete surrender. If you’re penetrating as part of an MFM (male-female-male) threesome, all three partners may experience higher testosterone levels, which means you’ll all stay hard, wet, and aroused for even longer.
If you’re the person being penetrated, it may appeal to your submissive side. Double penetration requires trust in all parties involved, and handing over the keys to your Pleasure Kingdom after discussing your needs and boundaries can feel absolutely ecstatic. You might also feel a sense of pride in being able to take two phalluses inside of you at once.
And for either party who may be involved, you may be doing it for novelty and, of course, pleasure.
What does double penetration feel like?
Receiving double penetration in your anus and vagina at the same time can give you a unique feeling of fullness that’s honestly making us hot just writing about it. If you have a vulva, DP can stimulate the g-spot, the clitoris and the anus all at the same time, leading to explosive, long-lasting orgasms. Even for people with prostates, having extra pressure on the prostate can give a similarly explosive experience.
If you’re a penis owner, DP may make your partner’s vagina might feel extra tight. You may need to go a bit slower and feel their vaginal walls quiver and tighten from the pressure of receiving two phalluses at once.
If you’re giving Double Penetration, you’ll also feel your partner’s vaginal or anal walls get tighter as they adjust to the pressure of receiving two phalluses at once.
Again, you’ll probably need to slow down, listen to your partner’s reactions (and if you aren’t sure, ask them!), and engage your core and back muscles to give controlled strokes that will drive your partner wild. Engaging your core and back muscles while penetrating your partner with DP can induce stronger orgasms.
DP with a Partner: Communicate, Communicate, Communicate
Ready to learn how to do double penetration and see if it lives up to the hype? The first step in giving or receiving double penetration is to communicate.
We asked Sexologist Rachel Wright, MA, LMFT, for tips on communicating with your partner. Here are the three key steps she mapped, in her own words:
- Name whether or not you’ve talked about DP before. This can sound like “I know we’ve never talked about double penetration before, and I’m nervous.” Or, “I know a few months ago we talked about DP stuff. I want to reopen that conversation!”
- Let your partner know your excitements, fears and worries — and tell them yours. It’s so important to know what you each want to get out of it and what you’re concerned about. It will help you be more present and intentional when playtime comes.
- Decide on the next step. Before you walk away from the conversation, decide on a joint next step towards taking your DP journey together. Perhaps it’s buying that new butt plug or that dildo you’ve been eyeing, or maybe you’re wanting to schedule a part two to your conversation. Don’t just walk away without a next step.
From there, the communication continues; once you and your partner come to an understanding of each other’s needs and boundaries, you need to stay communicative throughout the experience.
Wright suggests having a safe word. She says, “Just because you’re not engaging in BDSM, doesn’t mean a safe word isn’t helpful. Having a word that will be jarring to hear, like ‘kangaroo’ or ‘pineapple,’ will give you both peace of mind knowing that you won’t misread anything and have a clear indicator of ‘STOP NOW.’”
Taking another leaf from the BDSM handbook, you and your partner might also need aftercare. This can come in the form of cuddling, kissing, or just a simple conversation, asking your partner how that felt for them and what they might want to try next time.
DP Alone
DP is not just a partnered activity — whether you don’t want your partner involved or you don’t have a partner right now, you can still partake on your own!
Turn your solo sessions up a notch by adding a few extra toys to your lineup. Be sure to separate your anal toys from your vaginal toys because you can’t use the same toy for your vagina and anus without cleaning it thoroughly. Find a great butt plug with a flared base (we don’t need you running to the ER with toys lost in your rectum!), or enlist the help of two Lioness Smart Vibrators to DP yourself and compare your vagina and anus data (for science, of course), like our Co-Founder Anna Lee did in her epic blog post.
Oh, and keep some compatible lube on deck. You'll need it.
You can start by playing with your vagina, starting with the clit. Once you’re wet, slide your Lioness Vibrator into your vagina and take yourself right to the edge of an orgasm, stopping right before you get there.
Remove the toy from your vagina, if you need to, then insert your lubed up anal toy into your anus slowly, breathing through the sensation if you’re not used to it. Once the toy is in place, put your Lioness Vibrator back into your vagina and pick up where you left off. Give yourself the orgasm of a lifetime with the thunderous trio of clitoral, vaginal, and anal stimulation.
Tips for Trying Double Penetration
Still nervous? No worries, we totally get it! Here are a few more pointers to help you get comfortable with trying DP:
Communicate
We can’t stress this enough: Communication is the most important part of having a good experience! Without it, you or your partner could be seriously hurt or traumatized. Plus, planning the DP experience will get you all hot and bothered, raising your arousal levels when you finally get to try it.
Foreplay
Start with one orifice at a time and make sure you're fully aroused. It's not a race and it will make penetration easier and more enjoyable.
Start by inserting a toy, a finger, or penis into one opening before filling up both the anus and vagina. Sometimes, a finger or a small toy can make the person receiving DP a little more comfortable before working up to something larger in either opening (we also have a few recommendations for small anal toys, which you can find here in our butt plug guide).
Other times, the person receiving DP might not want thrusting, but to feel full from both their vagina and anus while their clit is being stimulated. Communicate with your partner along the way and see what makes them comfortable.
Lube — and lots of it!
Especially for anal play, keep lubes handy. The anus doesn’t self-lubricate, so it’s going to need some long-lasting help along the way. If you aren’t using sex toys, silicone or oil-based lubes are longer lasting (but don’t be afraid to use more throughout as needed). If you are using sex toys—particularly sex toys that ARE NOT made of an inert material like glass or metal— use water-based lubes to keep your sex toys in good shape, though keep in mind that you may need to refresh it now and then as your body will absorb it more and frequently than the oil and silicon based lubes. Staying wet and slippery will lead to a better DP experience for you and your partner.
How to Do Double Penetration
Double Penetration Positions with a Partner
You may have more control being on top, riding your partner’s penis or strap-on with a butt plug inserted in your anus. This position will work wonders if you’re not used to anal and want to work up to being able to take your partner’s penis or strap-on in your butt.
If you’re a pro at taking it up the butt, you can ride your partner’s penis or strap-on with your anus in reverse cowboy position, then use a vibrator to stimulate your vagina. Level up with a rabbit vibrator to stimulate both your vagina and clit at the same time.
If your goal is ultimate surrender, try bending over and asking your partner to penetrate your vagina or anus doggy-style, using your hand to insert a sex toy into the other opening.
Classic missionary position is also a great DP position. Lay on your back while your partner wears a strap-on harness with an extra dildo. Hold your legs back and let your partner have their way with you completely. Your partner can penetrate your anus while using your vibrator to penetrate your vagina in the same rhythm. Thank us later, friend.
Double Penetration Positions Without a partner
Double Penetration isn’t a feat you can fit into an afternoon quickie solo session. Pick a window of time that’ll allow you to build up your arousal, and, again, keep your lubes close.
You’ll have an easier time keeping one of the toys stationary, while thrusting the other. But if you have masterful hand-eye coordination that will allow you to thrust toys into two holes at once, more power to you! Start slowly by edging or bringing yourself to orgasm completely from stimulating one opening, then add another toy into your other opening.
Penetrating your vagina in doggy style might stimulate your g-spot and cervix more deeply than missionary, which will make it easier to insert a plug or anal beads down the line.
Laying on your back with your legs wide open might give you a bit more control and help you last longer for multiple o’s. Try using a dual-ended vaginal toy that clips in behind your pubic bone to stimulate the clit in front, then insert your lubricated Lioness Vibrator in your anus.
Practicing double penetration without a partner gives you a better sense of what you’re comfortable with when you do eventually try DP with a partner.
Conquer Your DP Fears
It may take a few tries to truly get the hang of DP, but with these tips and tricks, you’ll be an expert in no time. We’re cheering for you from the sidelines.
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