Masturbation—and sex—are as much an art as they are a science. There are biological and psychological forces at play, which we are able to explore extensively with Lioness Smart Vibrator, but when it comes down to it... everyone's bodies and preferences are different, and we all have had different experiences that have shaped how we view and experience pleasure.
So based on what we know, here are 5 rules-of-thumb to keep in mind when you're looking for the best ways to masturbate and take self-pleasure to the next level.
TJ, a 35-year-old, confidently heterosexual man, felt secure in his two-year relationship with his girlfriend. But he was keeping a secret: he’d begun to experiment with anal sex, and he wanted his partner to join him.
“I had trouble asking for it at first, and still do,” said TJ, who asked to remain anonymous. “I’m trying to let go and enjoy being taken. It’s not something I’d want my friends to know, but I’m starting to care less these days.”
The first rule of Masturbation Club is how you masturbate is up to you. Your body, your choice.
And it’s true that masturbation looks very different for all of us; some of us may be pillow-humpers, some of us may enjoy penetrative sex toys, and some of us may just enjoy some spit and our own hands.
The second rule, though, is masturbation can be fun when it’s mutual!
Before you ask, yes, mutual masturbation is different than having sex with a partner—even though it is just as fun!
Sometimes the intensity and spontaneity of a quickie satisfies your sex craving. And especially when you and your partner both have over-packed calendars, something's better than nothing. But other times, a slow buildup with plenty of foreplay leads to increased intimacy, lower inhibitions, and more enjoyable sex. Most of us even want more of it: While foreplay tends to last only 12 minutes, both sexes would like it to last about 18 minutes.
In that spirit, here's everything you need to know about foreplay, plus ideas for how to liven it up if you want more than the typical makeout session.
Lesbians have great sex, and we have the data to prove it. Research published in the journal Archives of Sexual Nature found that while straight people have sex more often, lesbians report having far more orgasms — 86 percent of the time — compared to their heterosexual counterparts, who orgasm only 65 percent of the time.
But how do we have this earth-shattering, orgasm-giving sex? It’s not just about oral sex— though there’s plenty of that, too. To avoid the dreaded “lesbian bed death” thought to come with long-term relationships, lesbians have to get more creative with our sex positions to keep things exciting.
Whether you’ve been together for 2 months or 20 years, here are some of the best lesbian sex positions you can incorporate into your sex life to keep the passion flowing.
Oral sex. Cunnilingus. Eating out. Giving head.
Whatever you call it, going down on a person with avulva is an amazing experience for everyone involved—if you do it right. (So for the love of vulvas,please stop drawing the ABC’s with your tongue.)
Good oral sex can make you feel like you have superpowers, whether you’re the giving or receiving partner. Going down on a woman (or person with a vulva) requires finesse. It requires confidence. Most of all, it requires you to understand what you’re doing and why.
Instead of turning oral sex into a spelling bee or guessing game, take a look at our tips for both giving and recieving oral sex, as well as some quotes from both oral sex givers and receivers.
We’re not saying they’re totally fail-proof oral sex tips, but they are fun and sexy, with the potential to produce mind-blowing orgasms!
Imagine this: something, somewhere out there will let you have an orgasm in under a minute. Sound desirable? You’re not alone. Many people are intrigued by the offer of fast, guaranteed orgasms. It's like Amazon Prime Now for orgasms: Same day delivery.
But is faster always better? Not always. That may be surprising, but I’ll explain what I mean with accounts from real people, and real data from those people.
Finally, if—after putting “faster” into perspective—it’s still what you’re going after, we’ll give some tips on how to get there and achieve your fastest orgasm.
One of the more common questions we get from people about our experience at Lioness is if we’ve found a particular quality that gets you the so-called best orgasm ever. This is sometimes asked in a couple different ways, such as whether having a more intense orgasm is better, if a faster orgasm (under a minute! 30 seconds!) is better, or even whether a “super” orgasm is better. Or any <insert the blank> quality, for that matter ...
Let’s look at real examples of strong/fast/slow/long/quick orgasms from people I’ve asked who have the Lioness Vibrator, a vibrator and app that can actually show you your own arousal and orgasm. (Confused? You’ll see in a minute.)
Although the Lioness Vibrator is primarily thought of as a product for self-discovery, it’s also a great tool for our-discovery. Basically, what I’m saying is that it can also be one of the best sex toys out there for couples. Not only is it a great vibrator, it can also help you and your partner have better sex (with and without the vibe).
You’ll never forget your firsts. First crush, first lover, first vibrator. All of them can be extremely confusing to navigate. If you have questions about navigating love, I don’t think I’m your gal... but as someone who knows plenty about sex toys and has built some as well, I can certainly help you navigate the trials and tribulations of buying your first vibrator and learning how to use sex toys. I’ll tell you my mistakes so hopefully you can feel a little bit less in the dark when you buy your first (or second) toy.
In our time developing Lioness, we’ve had a number of interested folks ask if they can use Lioness the same way they’d use a butt plug, and if so, how they would use Lioness as a butt plug. The short answer is yes! Here's how.