If you're looking to learn how to have better sex, we've selected some of our favorite books that have helped us along the way on all sorts of topics. From classic guides to coloring books to societal, cultural, and academic analysis, there's something for everyone.
The Guide to Getting It On
By Paul Joannides (Author) and Daerick Gröss Sr. (Illustrator)
I feel so fortunate that this was my first book on sex in college (I won it during a college "sex week" raffle). It covers nearly every topic imaginable on sex and is very friendly, inclusive, and created for anybody who wants to learn more about how to have better sex. It's also super well illustrated and not censored — which can be exactly what you need when you want to learn more about the topic.
It's informative enough to be required reading in college-level sex-ed courses, but also highly enjoyable to read for fun and pleasure. Get this book.
Come As You Are
By Emily Nagoski
If you've had questions about sexual arousal and desire, look no further than Emily Nagoski's book. There, you will learn that our varied experiences are quite normal, our sex drives are different and can change over time, and we are not alone in our experiences and questions, even if it might feel that way sometimes because we don’t have many places to discuss sex openly. This is a really important book if you have questions or concerns about your own experiences and are looking for new contexts and tools to embrace and be your best self.
The Vagina Bible
By Dr. Jen Gunter
This book is a great modern-day resource to consult when you're looking to better understand all things vagina (and vulvas). Just released in late 2019, the Vagina Bible is based on OB/GYN Dr. Gunter's knowledge and research of vaginal and vulvar health, including dispelling myths about commonly discussed remedies (yoni eggs, anyone?).
By Jaclyn Friedman
Friedman shows that even though there has been a lot of talk of empowerment (she aptly calls it "fauxpowerment") in the media and in advertising, the state of our culture, especially in regards to sexuality still has a long way to go. She shows that a lot of these external forces are what shape our reservations and fears of sexuality today, especially for women. She also interviews a lot of folks who are working towards changing the state of sexuality today (we got a shout out in it!) and talks about what people can personally do to change things in their own lives. If you're interested in learning more about modern-day culture in regards to sex and some of the cool, more recent things going on, add this book to your reading list!
Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex
By Joan Price
Joan Price is a "senior sexpert" who has written extensively about sex after 50. Each of her books has a somewhat different angle, so you can check out her work and see which one is the most interesting to you. I chose this one because it covers the most ground of what happens for women and men as they get older, and all of the different experiences you can choose to partake in no matter your age.
Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving
By Betty Dodson
If you're looking for a book to inspire you to get more comfortable with masturbation, Betty Dodson's classic book is an ode to masturbation. You'll learn how masturbation is beneficial whether you're single or in a relationship, why it's shameful (but shouldn't be), and why it's a natural part of being human.
Cunt Coloring Book
By Tee Corinne
Originally created for a sex education class, this coloring book contains over three dozen detailed "cunts" to color, each very different and unique from each other.
Our Bodies Ourselves
By The Boston Women's Health Book Collective
A sex book list wouldn't be complete without this book. It was first published in 1970 by a group of women in Boston who wanted to spread honest, in-depth information about sex and women's health. Since then, they've published several editions in many languages around the world and have expanded the topics to adapt to changing mores and standards in our society. Their last published edition was in 2011 and have discontinued publishing new editions due to lack of funding, so unfortunately they will not be continuing to update the book in the foreseeable future, but it is still available as a wealth of information on sex and reproductive health. There are also free excerpts available on their website to browse through before you decide to buy the full book!
By Mary Roach
Bonk is a fun adventure exploring the quirky nooks and crannies of sex. You basically follow Mary Roach around through her two year adventure going to labs, brothels, pig farms, sex toy R&D labs, and more, as she learns more about what's going on in the world of sex in all of these places. It's a lot of fun and very approachable for anyone who is curious to learn more about the curiosities of sex.
Disorders of Desire
By Janice Irvine
This is probably one of the more interesting, overlooked books about sex out there. It examines the evolution of the field of sexology through the 20th century, but it also looks at how social, political, and cultural influences have shaped the state of sex today. If you've ever wondered why our world is still so weird about sex and sexuality, this book will take you through the historical twists and turns of how and why things are still weird and antiquated.
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